I am so excited to be finally starting this journey. My name is Temi Omaghomi and I have been blogging for a while now (just not publicly). I am on a self-actualization mission and God always comes first in my life. I am a final year university student who loves to read, listen to music and hang out with my loved ones. I also really love solitude, but that is a topic for another day.
This blog is basically going to consist of positive vibes, faith and parts of my life. I am not exactly sure where I am going with this but I would love to express myself and I really hope you enjoy. Welcome to TheTemiOma.com
With lots of love,
During the course of the week, I was exposed to different situations that lacked empathy and I decided to speak to some people in order to solicit their views on the topic. According to my good friend Google, empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
I believe empathy is more than that. It is to wholeheartedly immerse yourself in a given situation as though it was YOUR situation.
We live in a very individualistic society and I presume that this leads to a lack of empathy. It is quite difficult to fully place yourself in someone’s shoes when you have been conditioned to constantly think “ME” and “I” as opposed to “We” and “Us”
Contrary to popular belief, people that aren’t empathetic are not the bad guys and here’s why:
Although everyone is born with the capacity for empathy, some people have a limited capacity of it.
Some people are overwhelmed, they want to empathize but they do not know how to go about it.
Lastly, some people genuinely can not relate to your situation and this might make it hard for them to truly be in tune with your feelings.
The good news is that just like any other skill, empathy can be developed.
We need to think more collectively to reduce selfish thoughts and feelings.
We also need to understand that not everyone is always going to react how we want them to.
College depression is a thing and I feel as though it has hit me full force. Quarter life crisis maybe? (is that a thing???) I realized that I have started to feel like a complacent robot. Balancing college, a job and volunteer work can make it really hard to include self-care in a routine. It is really important to not neglect yourself while doing this life thing.
I recommend you take a “MY DAY” each week. This could range anything from a few hours a day to a whole day where you just do things that make you feel happy and at ease. Take time to unplug from your stress and just do something to calm you. For me, that will be sleeping, watching a movie, getting my nails done or even a massage.
I was speaking to my friend today and she mentioned something that is very VITAL to self-care: POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS!!!! These are so important and they really do have an effect on your mood and performance. She inspired me to list out my affirmations for the month and it is my pleasure to share them with you!
- Today, I will practice peace
- I have no choice but to do it
- I am stronger than my troubles and fears
- I am FEARLESS
- I can do anything I set my mind to
- God has not given me the spirit of fear
- I am smart and successful
- I am carefree
- Every breath I inhales calms me and every exhale calms me
- I love myself deeply and unconditionally
- I am SO beautiful
- I am kind
- I am ENOUGH
- I love driving alone
- I believe in myself
- I am happy
- I am a conqueror
- I refuse to be discouraged
- I am independent of the good or bad opinions of others
- Against all odds, I shall rise
I am going to put these in a visible place and read them aloud every morning when I wake up and every night before bed.
There is power in the mind and the tongue, so I am going to speak positive, think positive and act positive.
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” – God
I just want to heal
For my mind to be still
Instead of racing and pacing
And focusing on nullity
I desire to be aware of my identiy
It is easier said than done
But I just want to heal
I love my Dad and I can’t believe I haven’t heard his voice for this long. I can’t believe I haven’t been able to give him a hug or hear him tell me how proud he is.
My Dad was my role model, my hero and my mentor. It is very hard living without him.
I wish he was here to see me get a good job, a car, a house, a husband and wonderful children. I wish he waited just a bit longer. I was going to make sure he had everything he wanted.
I feel depressed sometimes because the more days pass by, the longer it is that he has been gone.
Everyone told me time heals all wounds, but why am I still bleeding two years later?
Why do I still feel this deep void ? Why do I feel nauseous ?
Some days are better than others but I know healing comes in waves.
I have come a long way from January 3rd 2016 and I know I will only get stronger and more determined in the years to come.
It is very evident that my Dad is guiding me and protecting me.
Matito, I hope you are resting peacefully. No matter how old I get, I will always be your Temboom.
You taught me to be courageous and I will be just that.
I know everything happens for a reason so I won’t stop believing.
I love you past death Daddy. Take Care.
Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted. Matthew 5:4
“Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:5
I came across this scripture so much when I was younger. I heard it so much that I started to take it for granted. I mean, I understood it but I wasn’t living it. I was very lukewarm and God was definitely spitting me out !
After the death of my father, God saved me and I made it my point to serve him and hearken unto his voice. I have since started reading the Bible daily and meditating on it. I came across this scripture again whilst on my lunch break today and it resonated with me deeply. Finally! I am starting to understand scripture in a way that I never did before. God is answering my prayers by granting me wisdom, knowledge and a deeper understanding.
We are very guilty of judging people and acting some type of way to them or feeling the need to question their ways, without even realizing that we are nowhere near perfect. Do we do this as a coping mechanism? I mean, talking about other people’s imperfections takes away ours right? We fail to fix ourselves before we try to fix others. We need to focus on becoming better people instead of just judging others and focusing on what they are doing wrong. No one but God is perfect so we should keep that in mind before we try to complain about someone or judge them.
I have made the decision to start showing more compassion towards others as I can never fully understand what they are going through and why they act the way they do. I have decided to analyze my own life to make sure I am living godly. I will focus on lifting myself up and not pulling people down.
This post is long overdue but I have been super busy with school. Well, I finally have a break now so I decided to get this out of the way.
On April 21st, my friend, Vanessa turned 21 and we went out to eat, slay and celebrate. It was so fun and it will forever go down as one of my favorite 2017 memories.
Enjoy the #BlackGirlMagic
the birthday girl